Homewreckers... (lol sounds bad i know)

relationships are weird... especially the topic of "homewreckers" what makes a homewrecker? just for the sake of example we'll just have the situation be a couple and an outside guy. now if the couple isn't happy with each other and are on the verge of breaking up but the outside guy likes the girl and then they end up dating but only after the couple breaks up (i did not want to deal with infidelity thats a totally different story... ) but anyway why do we make the outside guy the bad guy? why is the guy who was originally with the girl the good guy? what if the outside guy was ment to be with the girl and would make her so much happier, and would end up spending the rest of their lives together? now the "homewrecker" looks like to be the "homemaker" (lol not sure if thats a term but i'm gonna use it) the old saying of all is fair in love and war (and pokemon battles! lol if you watched pokemon as a kid like i did) but joking aside the way i see it from a "technical" standpoint anything is fair game unitl the girl has a ring on her finger. ok i know what you're thinking... you're probally thinking that i'd be a homewrecker and honestly thats not my style :p but it is also very situational alot of things need to be considered. was the outside guy and the girl good friends before? were they in a relationship before she met someone new? just things like that. i know some people who don't belive in destiny they think its "bullshit" they told me that if i want something to happen then i gotta just get out there and do it myself but i believe in that too. a wise man once told me (my dad) that "god dosent help people who don't help themselves" and that has never rung more true in my head he told me that when i was a child and i have never forgotten it. i believe in destiny but i don't think people should rely in destiny or fate or god 100% i believe that you need to do what you gotta do and that last bit of (whatever it is that will get you to your goal or what you need) destiny or fate or god will help you see to that. i believe that not everything is written and you can't rely on if it is ment to be then it will be because if you don't do anything to push yourself in that direction then not even god can help you (lol the not even god can help you sounded so forceful but its true!) going back to what i'm saying (sorry for the crazy tangent) but lets say you were the outside guy/girl and were interested in the other girl/guy already in a relationship you should do what you feel like you should do. now i'm not saying everyone should go out and try to steal eachothers girlfriend and boyfriend that decision is up to each person, i'm just saying that each person should be given the opportunity to live a life without regret because they could have missed out on something great. so next time you see a situation similar to this just take a step back and really see whats going on really see the intentions of everyone involved before making some sort of judgement over oh he/she's just a homewrecker because for all you know the couple to begin with isnt even happy with eachother that guy/girl could be their saving grace you just never know. this closley relates to something that i've said before in a pevious entry of how we plan and god laughs. we just never know what life is going to bring us we just have to make decisions that will make us happy. not sure if any of this made any sense... its just whats going on in my mind who knows my thoughts on this could change by tomorrow so i'm writing it down now...

till then...beRandom...